Baseball was the only sport I played while I was growing up. I lived in the south and the weather permitted leagues to operate year-round. The high school team’s season lasted from January to May and then summer league continued through August. After that there was usually some low-key winter league that played in Fall. I loved baseball and played that ten-month schedule for a solid portion of my life. Of course, at that time I didn’t understand how important it was to me. And, as the cliché goes, I never realized how much it meant to me until it was gone. After high school, I just quit playing. I didn’t play in college and there weren’t any recreational leagues that I knew of. It was just gone. But even to this day, I still think about it all the time and, to continue with the clichés, I think about how sports can instill lessons you carry throughout your life.
I played short-stop. I loved playing in the field. I loved taking ground balls. I actually enjoyed that more than I enjoyed hitting. I would do it for hours if possible, or for however long someone was willing to hit me ground balls. When I was little, I couldn’t wait for my Dad to get home from work so that we could go in the back yard and he could hit balls to me. At the time I didn’t grasp how much that meant. My Dad worked 12-hour days and traveled at least three nights a week, every week of the year. I can only imagine how dog-ass tired he must have been when he came home, but he would still suck it up and come out there and dribble off grounders to me.
That lesson is something I have remembered my entire life. There are plenty of times when things don’t go our way. For the majority of those times, we can retrace our steps and examine distinct things we either failed to do or should have done differently. In a failed relationship, did I really try to think of the person’s feelings? Did I really commit and work at the relationship or did I just go about my life as usual and when things didn’t go my way did I simply assume “it just wasn’t right”? In searching for a new job or career, did I really call every contact I could think of? Or did I avoid the calls that put me out of my comfort zone? At work, particularly in sales situations, did I really use your time wisely? Did I really hit the phones and touch every available lead? Did I really follow-up with people as well as I should have? Can I honestly say I did everything I could and worked as hard as I was capable of working? More often than not, deep in my gut, I know what went wrong or can easily figure it out.
However, sometimes I know I did all I could do and things still just don’t work out. In those cases, it helps to remember that bad hops aren’t errors.

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